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I have one tip that
I have one tip that I have found to be very useful in stouatiins where I become frustrated with people's negative influences. It's particularly helpful for me (and for you too, I think), because I have a tendency to want everyone to get along, and to mediate and find a way to handle things that pleases everyone. And I feel bad even thinking one bad thought about someone else, especially if I like them in most other ways.I get a little card, small enough to fit in your pocket or to slip in a drawer, and write very clearly, something along the lines of: F**k you, you miserable **** or I don't give a flying F about what you have to say .I know. Nasty, right? But I find that writing down something I could never ever say, and is even a little exaggerated, gives me peace of mind when I get insecure about how I appear to other people. Sort of like pulling out an alter ego. Imagine you're Clark Kent nipping into a phone booth!I think it's very important to have the positive reinforcements you've thought of, but you may find that a tiny bit of supreme bitchiness gets you out of a jam here and there. And no one has to know! (That's the non confrontationalist in me talking)Well, I'm thinking of you and wishing you luck with the return to work. I'm proud of you!